Your son or daughter just got engaged, and you’ve officially become a Mother of the Groom or Mother of the Bride Congratulations to you proud mama! Are you excited or are you freaking out?
Calm Your Jitters
Before you do anything, take a deep breath and remember that you’ve raised them to be the most responsible, caring adult—even if they don’t act like it. It’s easy to get distracted with details, so don’t forget that the wedding is one day and your child’s marriage is for a lifetime. At times marrying your children off can sometimes invoke feelings of loss. Especially as a mom, the emotion of grief can be real. Don’t place the burden on your children. Find somewhere else to put those feelings.
What Should You Do?
Hire a Wedding Coordinator!
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Remind Yourself That It Is Not Your Wedding!
Don’t get hung up on things you want or feel that needs to be included during the wedding. Be gracious and loving and encourage your child in their plans and wants. If there is something important that you are thinking of, share it, but be willing to let it go if they say no. It’s an emotional event for everyone; don’t let your emotions get in the way of your relationship with your child. It’s one day—you can let it go.
Stay Off Pinterest!
It’s so easy to start comparing and coming up with what you think is are great ideas. DIY projects are not for everyone!
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff!
Evaluate everything you spend time and money on and focus on what’s going to matter in 30 years. Use your money strategically. It’s worth a few extra dollars to minimize the number of vendors you have and the number of people involved in the details.
Let The Day Reflect Your Child And Their Fiancé’s Relationship!
Encourage them to include details that they truly want and not because someone is telling them they “have to” do something or not. Just because a friend had a five-course sit-down dinner doesn’t mean they have to do it as well.
Planning a wedding can be a lot of work and sometimes feel like a full-time job. Finances can seem overwhelming. It can be a very positive and rewarding experience. As a parent, respect their wishes and give them space. You love them well by loving who they have become and their future spouse regardless of our personal opinions. Look at the bigger picture: a wedding is one day, a marriage is a lifetime.
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